Most professionals within the dating & relationship sphere agree that mutual core values are one of the most important factors when vetting dates & significant others. However, Weaver is the first & only dating app to be predicated on them. Why? The tricky thing is that there is no single concrete list of everyone’s core values & the little amount of studies on them have been conducted within the last several years. We at Weaver have researched the most common reasons behind breakups & divorce, sifted through over 500 “get to know you” questions & compiled a list of values people most commonly prioritize to create our core values “Pillar Questions.”
The commonality of core values in a relationship makes up for more spontaneous decision making, more peaceful conflict resolution & more efficient communication. One might say qualities essential to a relationship full of understanding, respect, and love.
Milica Markovic, Psychologist Coach MA (2021)
Being deliberate about whom you choose to date & how you move through life together are vitally important. Marriage as an institution, is strengthened when we use dating as means of carefully vetting relationships - Being clear & honest about your needs & asking the tough questions are critical functions of that process.
Kara Shade, PhD, CFLE, relationship educator and trained mediator
Over the past five years, a number of studies have been published effectively disproving personality & interest based compatibility.
At the outset of relationships, your own personality can account for 19% of differences. By contrast, a partner’s personality may only account for about 5% of that relationship satisfaction. Over time, the estimates become smaller…
Via a study pooling data from 43 separate studies and 11,196 couples who were interviewed at least twice
In either of the two studies using over 100 traits & preferences, they could not predict attraction to a specific person at all (<1%).
Dr. Samantha Joel, research professor who studies relationships, via her TEDx talk (2017)
Researchers found their results indicated that shared interests & similar personalities had little to no effect on relationship satisfaction.
Via a long-term survey of more than 2,500 heterosexual couples, married around 20 years (2019)
...measures of personality are incapable of truly predicting the length or success of a relationship.
Dr. John Gottman, founder of The Gottman Institute in Seattle
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